IS YOUR OVERTHINKING AND NEVERENDING TO-DO LIST KEEPING YOU UP AT NIGHT?
Therapy for Anxiety in High-Achieving Professionals
You’re the one everyone relies on. The planner. The problem-solver. The one who keeps it all together.
Do you find yourself constantly overanalyzing every decision?
Are you praised for being accomplished—but privately battling burnout, anxiety, or self-doubt?
You’re the go-to person. The one who gets things done, shows up for everyone, and rarely asks for help. You pride yourself on your standards. But behind the polished surface, there’s a racing mind, relentless pressure to succeed, and exhaustion from keeping it all together.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. I work with high-achieving professionals and couples in California who are ready to slow down, unlearn old patterns, and start living with more peace, connection, and ease.
Understanding Anxiety in High Achievers
Anxiety isn’t always panic attacks or visible distress—it often hides in plain sight. For high achievers, anxiety can look like productivity, perfectionism, people-pleasing, or pushing through exhaustion.
You might feel constantly on edge, have trouble sleeping, or experience racing thoughts that won’t turn off. You might replay conversations in your head, worry about being “too much” or “not enough,” and struggle to feel settled—even when everything seems fine on the outside.
Common signs of high-functioning anxiety include:
Feeling like you're “always on” and can't relax
Procrastinating due to fear of failure, then overworking to catch up
Being praised for your drive, even as you're silently overwhelmed
Avoiding vulnerability and discomfort by staying busy
A harsh inner critic that pushes you but never lets you rest
This form of anxiety is often rooted in early life experiences, family expectations, cultural pressures, or trauma that taught you success = safety. But that’s not the full story—and it doesn’t have to be your future.
CAN YOU RESONATE?
Imposter Syndrome
You are seen as capable, put-together, and dependable — but secretly struggle with feeling “good enough.” You constantly compare yourself to others, think that everyone else has their life together, and feel like you will never measure up. You struggle with praise because you think it will just be a matter of time before people realize that you’re not as confident or smart like you try to be. Instead of celebrating wins, you're worried about failure and are highly self-critical.
Overthinking
Your mind is always on—analyzing, planning, second-guessing. You replay conversations long after they’re over, struggle to make decisions without researching every possible outcome, and brace for problems that haven’t even happened. While your ability to think things through has probably helped you succeed, it can also lead to mental exhaustion, indecision, and emotional disconnection. It’s hard to feel present when you’re always ten steps ahead or stuck in your head.
Overcommitting and Difficulty Saying No
You’re the dependable one—always saying yes, always stepping up, often before anyone even asks. You take care of everything and everyone, but it often comes at your own expense. Saying no feels selfish or risky, like you’ll let people down or miss an opportunity. This can lead to chronic overwhelm, resentment, or burnout, even if everything looks “fine” on the outside. Setting boundaries and listening to your own limits feel so hard.
Perfectionism
You hold yourself to incredibly high standards—standards you’d never expect of anyone else. Mistakes feel like failures, and even success can come with the nagging sense that you could’ve done more. Perfectionism might show up as procrastination, people-pleasing, or burnout, but underneath it all is often a fear of not being enough. You might feel guilty resting, or worry that if you let up, everything will fall apart. Starting tasks is hard because there’s a hyperfocus on “getting it right” and anything less than “perfect” is not good enough.
Are you always waiting for the other shoe to drop?
You may not recognize that you are struggling with anxiety until it crashes into you like a tsunami. When waves of anxiety and stress build up to a panic attack, you can do nothing but endure it until its over. You dread the next breakdown, so you avoid uncomfortable things and bottle everything up - only to explode when something pushes you over the edge. It is difficult to acknowledge how crippling your anxiety can be, and you are frustrated by the power it has over your life. Your fears turn social situations into an extremely self-conscious affair. Your self-doubt makes you dissect and decipher everything anyone says. Your paranoia has you double and triple check whether you locked your doors. Your insecurities lead to unrealized dreams. You are a master overthinker, and you are deeply afraid that you will always be this way.
Relationship Challenges for Anxious High-Achievers
When both partners are driven, smart, and used to performing at a high level, conflict can feel like a threat. You might:
Struggle to express needs without defensiveness or shutdown
Keep your guard up instead of turning toward each other
Avoid conflict until it explodes
Feel like roommates instead of romantic partners
Default to logic instead of emotional connection
I offer couples therapy and intensives designed to help high-functioning partners move from reactive patterns to responsive, attuned connection—without losing their individual goals and identities.
Is This You?
You’re a leader, entrepreneur, or high-performing professional
You’ve been in therapy before but want something deeper
You value personal growth and want your relationships to reflect that
You have a constant fear of failure or “not doing enough”
You mask your anxiety masked by trying to be more productive
You have difficulty relaxing or being fully present
Your self-worth is tied to external accomplishments
You have trouble asking for help or showing vulnerability
You have relationship stress from avoidance, over-functioning, or resentment
What Anxiety Therapy Can Help You Do:
Quiet the noise in your mind — and get to the root of what’s driving it
Let go of unrealistic standards that are burning you out
Break free from overthinking spirals and second-guessing
Deepen emotional intimacy in your relationships without losing your independence
Heal the inner critic and start showing up from self-trust, not self-pressure
Anxiety Therapy can help you discover how to lean into your fears without letting them control you
Anxiety is a part of our built-in defense mechanism that protects us from potential danger. Our anxiety keeps us safe by helping us scan for threats and make quick decisions during high-risk situations. In our modern era, danger is not limited to physical harm. Danger can look like our fear of failure or abandonment, criticism, the pressure to succeed, rejection, and vulnerability.
My goal is to help you understand more about your fears, learn tools that you can use to help manage your anxiety, and create a better relationship with your feelings (even the unwanted ones, like anxiety).